Fertile Emotions

Having had personal experience of difficulties conceiving and miscarriage, flower essences have been one of my main supports. By sharing what I have learnt, I wish to offer you a way forward and it is my passion to share the message of the flowers directly to your heart.

To begin with we need to understand how the mind and body communicate and how negative emotions affect hormonal balance. All our experiences from in-utero to now are stored in the emotional brain - some of these experiences we remember, many of them are stored in the subconscious. Emotions such as anger, fear or depression are our responses to these experiences. The brain transforms these emotions into biochemical and electrical messages from the hypothalamus and pituitary glands and they are distributed throughout the body via the bloodstream. This negative hormonal communication along the hypothalamic-pituitary-gonad axis is responsible for many reproductive problems. Research is now showing that resolving unfinished business from childhood and earlier adult life can impact positively on our hormonal systems, thereby enhancing our ability to conceive and birth a healthy baby.

How flower essences can be used and how they will help you to feel if you are trying to conceive:

• Essences can help you to feel less anxious before or during a doctor's visit or medical procedures or when waiting for results.
• You will recover more quickly emotionally and physically after surgery, failed cycles, miscarriage or stillbirth and other traumatic events or procedures.
• Essences can help you cope more easily when you hear about other women conceiving and/or at Xmas or a family gathering where there are babies or young children present.
• You will become more aware of how you really feel and learn to express these feelings appropriately. For example grief and anger are both emotions that when not expressed can, over time, have serious psychological and physiological consequences.
• Essences over time will help you become more intuitive and peaceful and more able to know what is right for you (which treatment to follow, how long to carry on trying etc) and feel less affected by negativity around you - regarding e.g. your age or diagnosis. Personally, I feel that labels such as infertile or too old are incredibly damaging and can ultimately impact on how the woman or man feels about her/himself and therefore negatively affecting fertility.
• Essences can help us become more accepting and forgiving each time pregnancy does not occur and ultimately if we decide to stop trying.
• Finally and very importantly, flower essences can help us to make contact again with the beautiful, creative, joyful woman inside of us all.

Areas of reflection to help you choose your flower essences

Research I have done with women and men who are trying to conceive shows that we each need very individual essences as we are all unique in our emotions and how we see life. For this reason an individual consultation with a flower essence consultant is the best way forward. However, the following areas of reflection have shown to be significant in my research and there are many easily available essences which can help you.

• Would you like to feel more accepting of yourself as a woman? Happier, more sensual, more confident? Do your have an irregular or painful cycle? There are many essences which can harmonise hormonal health. Try MoonFlower Essences of Orange Begonia or Windflower or Pregnancy Support (Alaskan Essences). Pregnancy Support combination essence is also in FertilEssence Bath Soak, Body Lotion and RollerBall – in stock in our online shop.
• Do you take a lot of medication? Do you use the computer or mobile phone frequently? Do you need to de-tox physically? We all need to de-tox emotionally and let go of negative feelings and beliefs - such as I am infertile or I am too old. If we want to create a space in ourselves for new life to enter, then we need to let go or old patterns and beliefs that are holding us back. Then try Purifying Essence (Australian Bush Essences) available from our online shop.
• Do you spend a lot of time in your head? Do you take time each day to acknowledge how you really feel or do you keep yourself busy so you don't have time to think? Embracing how we really feel is key to allowing energy to flow in our bodies. Then try Bluebell, Honeysuckle or Pink Geranium (MoonFlower Essences) or Calm and Clear (Australian Bush Essences) - in stock now in our online shop.
• Have you suffered a miscarriage or stillbirth? Have you had surgery? Have you had traumatic experiences in your life? It is so important to release the trauma that has built up in our bodies. Flower essences are perfect for this. Then try Gaia's Bath Soak or Body Lotion in stock in our online shop. Or you could try Soul Support Alaskan combination essence available in our online shop.
• If your immune system is low or you are very tired, flower essences can help replenish your energy physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. There are many essences which can help regenerate tired adrenal glands and remind us how to use our energy so that we do not become burned out. Try Dynamis Essence (Australian Bush Essences) in stock now in our online shop.
• Would you like to improve your communication with your partner and those you love? Do you find it difficult to say how you really feel? Having difficulties conceiving is a very painful experience and it is not always easy to communicate painful feelings from the heart. When we communicate from the heart, it is easier for others to really listen to us and understand. Flower essences can help you do this. Then try Relationship Essence (Australian Bush Essences) in stock now in our online shop.
• Would you like to enjoy a more loving and sensual physical relationship with your partner? Trying to have a baby can take all enjoyment and spontaneity from an intimate relationship. Flower essences can help renew passion and allow you to feel more open to physical and emotional intimacy. Try Sensuality or Spirit Lift Spritz (Flowers of the Orient) or Sexuality Essence (Australian Bush) in stock now in our online shop.

Looking after your emotional health is a vital part of giving yourself the best chance to conceive and birth a healthy baby.

Looking after your emotional health is a vital part of giving yourself the best chance to conceive and birth a healthy baby.